Okay, so we got the results back on the chromosomal analysis of the fetus and it came back "female, normal". Argh. So either we had a female who had no (that they could detect on this test...)abnormal chromosomes or they tested a blood clot of mine and (as I suspected...) I am normal. So, completely inconclusive. So so frustrating.
Now, I had a major freakout about something like this happening a few weeks ago...but it went something like getting a test result that said "male, normal" because then we would KNOW it wasn't my tissue and we actually had a normal fetus. The doctor warned me that if it came back "female, normal", we wouldn't actually know anything at all b/c there is a good likelihood that it was my tissue being tested by mistake. However, a fellow IFer has had 2 prior miscarriages from her 2 prior IVF's and they both came back normal...then she did PGD (a form of genetic testing prior to transfer) and she is now past her first trimester with a singleton. I've also read an article that said that if it comes back "normal" it doesn't really mean that it was "normal" - just that the test that they use to test fetuses counts chromosomes, so it was normal in that it had the right number of chromosomes, but not that they were arranged properly or working properly. So, still no answers.
I know some people think I am in a decent position - I get a lot of eggs, they fertilize great, and we get a good number of very nice embryos. I've now gotten pregnant 3 times (1 natural chemical, 1 ectopic, 1 m/c at 8.5 weeks) so we know I can get pregnant. No doctor has found a single thing really wrong with me in the fertility department (well, barring the hashimoto's thyroidosis), so I should be happy. However, I am really of the opinion that I wish they could tell me it is definitely my eggs or something- I wish they could have told me this months (years?) ago so I can move on to a donor cycle. I have been considering doing a donor cycle even though they don't actually say it is my eggs. I just don't care about genetics. At all. Its just I hesitate to do it b/c my eggs seem fine. I think the plan is that we will do this CGH cycle. If it is a BFN or we get no normals then we know it is something with eggs, we will start researching embryo adoption. There will be no rush anymore because age then isn't really a factor. Then we can maybe one day move forward.
So, the doctor here is forwarding the test results to CCRM and I am expecting to talk to them sometime today. I'll update if it is anything interesting...