No ultrasound? are you kidding me? edited again

So, I think I've been very very patient. I went in to the OB at 10w2d and had my first non-RE ultrasound. At that appointment, I did try to request an NT scan (detailed ultrasound at about 12 weeks that measures fetal neck and head for markers for down's syndrome) but the OB said I didn't need it b/c I did genetic testing. I told him I'd still kind of like to have it (not forceful enough, I know) but he said it was not recommended and not needed and then asked me why I wanted it. I said I wanted another u/s in 2 weeks that is covered by insurance and this one is supposed to be very detailed, which sounded great to me. He said no. Then he said that we will have to wait until the next appt at 14 weeks. I made a joke about waiting 4 weeks for an ultrasound when we are used to having them every week, but I said okay and I made the "I am a trooper" face. The OB was nice, I've heard great things, but I didn't have many questions and the appointment was very short.

Today I decided I should call them before my Tuesday appt to make sure that I am scheduled for the u/s. I am not. They do not do another u/s until about 20 weeks. The receptionist said that they usually do about 3...one at the first appt, one about mid-way and one towards the end, unless there are problems. My jaw dropped. She suggested I call my insurance and see how many are covered and then see if I want to add one in on Tuesday if it is covered. My insurance says that an unlimited number are covered if there are medical reasons to support the u/s. Now, from the tone of the office, I am guessing that they won't say there are medical reasons unless I am bleeding uncontrollably or have cramps. However, I do have a call in to the nurse to ask if massive IF treatments and recurrent miscarriage and serious emotional instability of the patient can be considered a valid medical reason. Here I thought I was being great while all my other IF friends who are pregnant still go in for u/s's every 2 weeks or even weekly, and I am patiently waiting 4 weeks! Am I totally overreacting or would you expect more u/s's in my circumstances? Any of the women who read my blog and had normal pregnancies recently - how frequently did you get u/s? should I just try to relax and assume all is alright in there? I feel like I've been so good without seeing her for 4 weeks....that maybe a monthly u/s was almost standard...little did I know!

Okay, take that back. They called as I was writing this. No ultrasound. They will not allow me to have one in the next few weeks. They say it just isn't justified. What the hell?

Edited to add - I just got a call a few minutes ago from the nurse. She talked to my doctor and they arranged to get me a free practice NT scan on Tuesday. Basically, the u/s tech is trying to get certified for NT scans so we will be one of practice subjects...I think it is weird b/c we will be past the 14 week mark so the measurements they are hoping to take won't make much sense probably (I've read they have to be done before 14 weeks) but I am thankful that they are willing to help me out and give me some reassurance. I kind of gave up on this and resigned myself to less scans but I am nicely surprised that they were willing to do this for me:-)